Sunday, January 30, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
being about it.
i had a very awful december. awful. and it seemed to cement the crappiness of 2010, and my overall poor luck with men. except now, i feel as if it provided a source of renewal in this crazy, inexplicable way. i remember having a conversation with my friend veronica* about an overall decline in my happiness over the last couple of years, and a general feeling of cynicism towards life and love. more than feeling strengthened by experience, i felt hardened and hollow.
a couple of months later i feel the strength that i thought was missing. i'm not a vessel of corrosive negativity. i am much more. and i feel it every morning when i wake up and i am grateful for my friends and family, and my capacity to love.
i made a few decisions in december and january. i decided to trim the fat and pour out the grease. it is not that i am too old for that shit...
i am simply too precious for that soul-clogging nonsense.
and breathe.
*name change
a couple of months later i feel the strength that i thought was missing. i'm not a vessel of corrosive negativity. i am much more. and i feel it every morning when i wake up and i am grateful for my friends and family, and my capacity to love.
i made a few decisions in december and january. i decided to trim the fat and pour out the grease. it is not that i am too old for that shit...
i am simply too precious for that soul-clogging nonsense.
and breathe.
*name change
Thursday, January 13, 2011
the problem with rules and expectations.
discussing a crush...
1shot2many: well...the ball is in his court...
bitesized: yeah, except he doesn't even know there is a ball.
1shot2many: you're so right dude. he doesn't even know there's a ball or a field for you to play the effing game!!
1shot2many: well...the ball is in his court...
bitesized: yeah, except he doesn't even know there is a ball.
1shot2many: you're so right dude. he doesn't even know there's a ball or a field for you to play the effing game!!
Friday, January 7, 2011
enough!
womenfolk:
STOP reading into male behavior. DO NOT anticipate what they will do. STOP structuring your actions so that they may result in a particular reaction from a man.
yes, to us, certain behaviors are logical. (why wouldn't he do that? it only makes sense!) but men are human beings. they are erratic, wily, and unpredictable. as are we.
furthermore, all of the crap i listed above amounts to games. STOP playing games. be grown. act like you're a grown ass woman deserving of a grown ass man.
so please spare yourself the agony, and communicate in order to obtain the answers you need. STOP waiting for an answer they may not realize they need to provide. and as long as you're not crazy and/or out of line (though crazy may sometimes be necessary), DO NOT worry about how they will react to your desire for honesty and clarity. those elements are basic. empathy is certainly a virtue, but we are NOT supposed to care about our crushes/f#ck buddies/boyfriends/husbands more than we care about ourselves. in what world does that make sense? and if someone tells you otherwise, feed them to the sharks.
/end rant.
STOP reading into male behavior. DO NOT anticipate what they will do. STOP structuring your actions so that they may result in a particular reaction from a man.
yes, to us, certain behaviors are logical. (why wouldn't he do that? it only makes sense!) but men are human beings. they are erratic, wily, and unpredictable. as are we.
furthermore, all of the crap i listed above amounts to games. STOP playing games. be grown. act like you're a grown ass woman deserving of a grown ass man.
so please spare yourself the agony, and communicate in order to obtain the answers you need. STOP waiting for an answer they may not realize they need to provide. and as long as you're not crazy and/or out of line (though crazy may sometimes be necessary), DO NOT worry about how they will react to your desire for honesty and clarity. those elements are basic. empathy is certainly a virtue, but we are NOT supposed to care about our crushes/f#ck buddies/boyfriends/husbands more than we care about ourselves. in what world does that make sense? and if someone tells you otherwise, feed them to the sharks.
/end rant.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
new year.
relationships are hard.
i'd even venture to say that dating is harder.
men dish out an incredible amount of bullsh*t.
but why do i continue to see women who place themselves directly in the line of fire?
i'd like 2011 to be about loving ourselves just a little more than societal conditioning has taught us.
i'd even venture to say that dating is harder.
men dish out an incredible amount of bullsh*t.
but why do i continue to see women who place themselves directly in the line of fire?
i'd like 2011 to be about loving ourselves just a little more than societal conditioning has taught us.
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